Back in September, I ran across a blog that posted about a ‘friend’ who was looking for some compassion about a horrible shopping experience where her ‘friend’ was told,
In short, she was purchasing a new pair of gym shoes when some miserable bitch decided to speak her mind and spit some variation of “you’re too fat to be in a gym, why are you buying running shoes?”
What this blog post turned into what the blogger making a fuss over the fact that people came out ‘in support of being fat.’ From there it continues on with the normal stereotypical beliefs about not just about fat but the idea of fat acceptance as well,
To be completely honest right out of the gate: This frightened me. It still frightens me. Even when I was obese, the entire “body acceptance” movement eluded me. I never thought that feeling slow, sluggish, and less than able was something desirable or acceptable.
It turned into a tangent where the blogger continues on talking about how most people fall into the idea that we are all kidding ourselves if we believe in ‘genetic obesity’ or that we might actually be genetically predisposition to be fat, never mind the twin studies that have shown this. I’m not going to summarize the whole post because if you want to read the discriminatory and quite sad post you can do so on your own time. What reading this post led to was my own personal responses to her post, and responses to me where I was told to not rely on scientific data because it is a crutch so that I can ignore what my fatness is doing to my body.
I then found out that she is a grad student at the college I attend and she was kind enough to invite me to her office so that we can discuss our ‘ideas.’ When she offered this I knew it wasn’t something I was going to accept. First, because she was offering a location where she had the upper hand the second I walked through her office door and I’m not really into being lectured unless it’s a class I sign up for. Second, because she didn’t appear to actually be open to anything that I had written, due to her attacking my blog where she said all I do is write angry letters. So far I have a post of about 130 and an ‘angry letter count’ of 5, so clearly that’s all I do.
Apparently when one doesn’t accept an open invitation to have a ‘discussion’ in a person’s office, that means they write an open letter to you on their blog, an angry letter perhaps? Well that is what happened and then she sabotaged “Love Your Body Detroit’s” love your body day poster campaign by tearing all of the ones we posted down in the women’s locker room on campus. How do I know this? Oh she told me in the angry letter she wrote me. By the angry/to post ratio it appears that this blogger spends their time writing angry letters to me! SWEET!
She also changed the ‘I love my FAT body’ poster to ‘I love my FIT body’ never mentioning the other body positive posters that also mention about creating diversity on campus, although I know she would probably be for all of it as long as it’s not body diversity.
I can call you Amy can’t I? One doesn’t just write an angry letter to someone without knowing their first name. My name is Amanda, or FatWaitress whichever you prefer. You probably already read everything I wrote above but I thought that I would give us some one on one time. It is a very strong statement to say that I clearly don’t like my body as much as the people who go to the gym on a regular basis, or that when I am old I will be riddled with diabetes and heart disease.
These are pretty harsh statements that are actually directed at me as a person, when all I did was give you a different side to a very discriminatory argument that you posted on your blog. I will say that I am happy that you worry so much about my health, when I have a pretty good indication of where I will be when I’m 70, my dad is still going strong.
As for going to your office, I didn’t reply because you weren’t asking me to come and have a discussion with you, if you wanted that you would of asked me to meet you in the library or any place where your position of authority couldn’t be used to your advantage. Instead you chose the one place where you would in fact have the upper hand. But I will give you a place where you can come and speak your mind. Love Your Body Detroit, you know the organization whose posters you tore down, we are having a meeting on Monday January 10, at 8pm in the UGL. (As long as schedules don’t conflict) You are more than welcome to come and we will discuss your posts at our meeting.
Lastly, I’m sad that you feel as though I am attacking your beliefs about your own body and it makes you feel the need to attack who I am personally. I would prefer if we actually kept this about the discussion and not a cut down on who can throw the bigger insults.