BODYSLAM! Poetry Jam and Storytelling – Application deadline reminder!

If you have plans to participate in Love Your Body Detroit’s upcoming event and fundraiser please email your application to LYBDetroit @ (without the spaces). The deadline is January 20th, so please submit your poetry and/or stories to us so we can get our amazing lineup ready!

10 Days Late and 5 Years Later

I started my blog 5 years ago, 10 days ago. It’s strange to think that in the past 5 years so many things has made me solidify my own personal believes as a fat rights activist. I’m no longer “kinda involved in fat acceptance,” as I use to say or not even mention it for fear of backlash.

This blog has never been just about fat rights, it has been the culmination my last 5 years of thoughts, obsessions (like John Mayer, ew) and passions. I changed from wanting this to help only myself to now hoping I can help others with a place to come together with like minded people, like Love Your Body Detroit, to changing my entire career path to help educate others about oppression issues.

I still face the question of whether or not this space can actually do any good, the truth is that I still don’t know if it has, but it has helped me sort out my own thoughts and find a more concrete opinion. Another truth is that I don’t care, if you have personally found that something I have written has helped your own personal life journey then splendid and if not that’s fine too. This is not me telling you how you should believe or how you should act; this is me telling you that there is a different way of thinking that you might not have contemplated. We often find ourselves moving along in life not following our own path but the one that we think we should follow based on what society, family, or friends feel is right. If I actually still listened to other people, I would probably be majoring in graphic design and severely depressed.

But back to the point, I started the space hoping that I could change one person, to create a tidal wave of radical thought, for that one person to go out and tell another person and so on. A sort of pay it forward political movement style. So, for the two people who read this blog, I am giving you homework.

You have 5 years to tell as many people as you can about fat rights (or any other political movement) and what it means to you. If you must start out with your cat or dog, hell a goldfish if that works for you, but just tell someone. See where it takes you personally and see what it changes about them.

Oh Really Kanye West?

Normally I can just turn off a video or music that I consider is so incredibly horrible, like  Katy Perry’s ‘California Girls,’ but the sneak preview for Kanye West’s new video ‘Monster’ is so distressing to me that my capability to stop reading into the images shown in the 35 second clip is nonexistent. The descriptions of the video made before the clip was released talked about it being a horror video comparable to Michael Jackson’s ‘Thriller’ but nothing I have seen is trying to scare as much as disturb.

The only chilling part of the video is the quantity of deceased women that appear to be strewn about with absolutely no regard for them. Women hang from the ceiling seemingly hung to death while Rick Ross casually smokes a cigar, another women appears to be sat on under the cushions of the couch that Jay-Z appears in front of. On top of all of this Kayne West is in bed with two more deceased women, one of which he goes to kiss before placing her hand over the crotch of the other women.

Not only are all of these women dead but also they are virtually naked, most of them wearing skin colored lingerie. This whole video goes beyond just merely dehumanizing these women, who all appear to be victims of a vicious and violent act, turning them not just into objects but inanimate objects to be used, dominated and violated however Kanye West would please.

If you would like to see the clip it is pretty easy to find. I just would rather not even link to it.

Call for Artists, Speakers and Crafters!

What: BODYSLAM! Poetry Jam & Storytelling

Where: The Trumbullplex, 4210 Trumbull St., Detroit, MI, 48208

When: February 19th, 2011 6-11pm


Love Your Body Detroit will be holding its first ever fundraiser and we need your help to make it a huge success! We are looking for speakers for our main show a poetry jam and story telling session that will be happening on the main stage.

Poetry / Stories can be related to but are not limited by,

  • Fat phobia / hatred
  • Ethnic or racial diversity
  • Appearance based oppression
  • Eating Disorders
  • Body Image

Basically anything that will make us think critically about our bodies or how it feels to live in yours! Submissions should be at a maximum 10 minutes in length and emailed in a word document to the address below. Please also include your name, contact information, and a short personal bio.

Artists or vendors:

We are also looking for body positive artists / craft vendors who’s work shows size, racial or ethnic diversity through any form of media.

Please send the following in a word document,

  • Name / Business
  • Contact Info
  • Kind of Work / Products you sell
  • Links to examples of your work

**Crafters who make clothing and wish to participate should make sure their clothing sizes are just as diverse as the people in attendance. Also vendor fees will be on a donation basis only, if you wish to give we will love you for it!

Participant Submission Deadline: 1/20/11

Submit Application to:

The Idea That We Must Be Socially Acceptable

The Fat Rights community in the last week has been a flurry of activity after the whole ‘Fat people are gross’ debacle and the answering ‘Big Fat Kiss-In,’ which I thought was amazing as far as the organization and amount of people who participated on such short notice. It was in many ways it was a huge ‘fuck you’ to the rampant fat phobia that the article proves still exists today.

This week has also brought me back to how we often spend so much time skirting around the issues instead of talking about how we live in deviant bodies while our lives, apart from our fatness, is as socially acceptable as possible. Do I love that there are people out there who are huge supporters and enthusiasts of HAES,  the Fatshionista livejournal community and showing fat people in ‘socially acceptable situations?’ Yes, but not participating in HAES, fashion or living ‘normal’ does not mean you should be considered socially unacceptable. Our society as a whole teaches us that we need conformity to survive, with fat acceptance you have reached one level where you can feel comfortable not conforming to societies dictation that you must have a certain body shape and size.

What happens after people in our movement reach a level of body acceptance while they still find that their own personal lives are still not deemed normal by society? To be honest it isn’t as though with body acceptance your life automatically becomes hearts and rainbows. More than likely you are still going to face rejection by people due to your body for numerous reasons. The difference is that if you don’t succeed because you’re being personally discriminated against it doesn’t mean it is your fault.

To be particularly honest I am not interested in showing or demonstrating to others that I dress, act or live ‘acceptably.’ I am, in fact, a 25 year old virgin who is quite content with this fact because I reject the notion that I am somehow less of a person due to my sexual inactivity, or that I am somehow lesser than because I don’t have a relationship or care about how I am viewed as a person because of it. I am not interested in playing normal to fit in or feeling shame because my sexual history hasn’t followed the timetable of social acceptability. (I’m still looking for that timetable so I can light it on fire.)

This is in much of the same light as those who feel that fat rights isn’t for them because they don’t live a lifestyle that is congruent with HAES. Again no one should have to prove that they are worthy as a person by being as ‘normal’ as possible. It is yet again feeding into societies own desire that we act like monkeys and dance for them in hopes that they invite us to the ‘cool kids’ table. Well I say fuck that table.

You shouldn’t have to defend yourself if you are by chance living a lifestyle that most people wouldn’t deem ‘healthy’ or have your sexual orientation put into question because you are not forthcoming with your relationship status. Your self worth is not defined by your body, the relationships you have, the food you eat, how much you exercise etc.

Only you can define your worth, and if someone tries to define it for you, tell them to fuck off.

Love Your Body Day Wrap Up / LYBD Meeting

Last week’s Love Your Body Day poster campaign went off without a hitch. I did learn some things while doing it though, when you think you don’t have enough posters you probably have too much, planning an event the same week you have 2 midterms makes you crabby, and postering is far more tiring than one would think.

Thanks to Rae and Dazzle for helping out! Also thanks to anyone who printed up fliers and did their own area.

If you’re in the Metro Detroit area on Monday 11/1 Love Your Body Detroit is having their next meeting in the Undergraduate Library on Wayne States campus at 8pm. Come out and help us plan our fundraising event that will be happening in February.

You can view a few more photos on Facebook from 10/20. Love Your Body Detroit

Check out BFB’s Body Love Attack!

Love Your Body Detroit’s posters were featured on BFB! Check out how you can do some social activism in your area on Wednesday!  Click Click

Come out and help LYB Detroit flyer Wayne State University campus, all you need is tape/stapler. The fun is free!

Check out the event listing here!