Since I started this blog 5+ years ago, I have consistently gotten traffic from search results where people ask if they can waitress while fat. Over the years I have seen people in the restaurant industry that came in all shapes, sizes and abilities. What I have never witnessed was someone not able to do their job because their body made it impossible, unless there was an underlying issue or injury.
Before you ask if you can be a fat waitress / server etc, you should be asking if you can stand for long periods at a time (depending on the place I have worked up to 16 hours straight), talk to people, remember orders, and work fast. None of those things require you to be thin, but create a level of service that works for you.
While your ability to do a job is not limited by your body, the kind of place you want to work might change because of it. I don’t want to work at a place that is filled with thin model types, like hooters. Not because I couldn’t work there, though I wouldn’t fit into their uniform, but because the environment that I would be walking into is not the place where I can come in and just do my job. I’m hired to give a service not be objectified, or become part of the scenery. Some people are completely ok with doing that because it works for them.
I’m not; I’m not here to be pretty or to flirt with them while they look down my shirt. I’m here to give them their fucking food. I might smile, but that is only because I feel like I should or I am in a good mood.
What you should be asking is what kind of environment do you want to work in? Because it is your mind stopping you, not your body.
If you weren’t aware, I recently added a page on my blog that links directly with my Etsy store ‘FW Originals.’ There you will find all of my random bits of craftiness that you can buy and enjoy! I’m adding a few pairs of crochet earrings and a few valentine sets to go along with my button earrings and other items. I’m hoping in the next few weeks I will also have some crochet hair pins in the store as well!
(Click the images to see the listing on etsy)
If you live in the Detroit area the Spiral Collective is now carrying some FW Originals products. They are located at the corner of Willis and Cass just south of Wayne State’s campus.
Off to craft…
Now I normally wouldn’t worry about little things like a mannequin, that I was searching for to use with my etsy store, but after much thought about how to shoot some of my crochet items I realized it was necessary. What I didn’t think about was how small the mannequins are, proportionally this thing is tiny, my crochet vanity wraps seem to fall off the back.
In other news now that I actually have a light box (tutorial to make one here) and a mannequin to use, I’m hoping my store will stop its major failing and someone will actually buy something.
I cannot wait until this week is over so that I can get back to crafting. I feel as though I am ready to crawl up the walls with all of the ideas I have but with school wrapping up this week I haven’t had the time to make anything. On Saturday I built a light box to take photos of my products for my etsy store, since I have been having trouble taking photos that I truly enjoy.
I have been quite sad by the failing of my etsy store the past year, I haven’t had any sales which makes me wonder what I’m doing wrong. Hopefully I can get some more designs out and that might help me out.
I might even have some FA related products up soon.
Most people think that they are so sneaky or private but what they might not realize is that frequenting a restaurant means that your server will more than likely know you. It becomes truer if you are one of the millions of neurotic restaurant patrons that frequent restaurants with their never-ending incidents of ridiculous issues or habits of acting as if they are better than the system. Also if you’re a regular trying to hide something get real. We all know what your doing before you do.
Working in a bar has its perks, if you want to know information about someone all you have to do is get their friends a little liquored up or become friendly with them and they will spill the beans. I once had roommates of a guy tell me all of his dirty laundry that would probably make his now fiancé not want to marry him, since he was hiding a side of himself from her which would not shed a good light on him.
The stories never end but some of my favorite regulars are some of the nicest kindest people that I have ever met, but the others are normally the ones that servers stay away from, don’t try to talk to or interact with more than they have to. Small incidents of pretentious behavior can make someone remember you forever, trying to argue with the server that because it’s the next day somewhere else in the world just makes you look like an asshole. And then asking if their boss knows how argumentative they are (after you tried to explain that on Monday its Tuesday somewhere else thus you should get your bottle of wine half off) also makes you look like an asshole. Also hanging your coat on a chair at a different table when we have coat hangers makes you look like a huge asshole, and you will forever be know as coat guy.
Next we have the adulterers, they come from different directions, every day meeting at the bar. We know they are having an affair from the fact that she wears a wedding ring and he does not. But there are more subtle clues that made us come to this conclusion, they don’t dress the same, or drive the same class of cars she drives a brand new $50,000 car where as he drives an outdated suv. If you ever look around a restaurant you can tell what couple is together. Their clothes match, older couples even have a tendency to wear the same patterns, which I tend to believe is the wife having her husbands balls in a vice. *I am updating to say that not only do they come from different locations but leave going different ways. Meeting up 4-5 times a week at the same time every day.*
The worst is people who frequent places with their family and the person they are having an affair with. The sad part is that its not just something between two adults, you are now bringing your kids into a situation that is uncomfortable for the servers who have to wait on you. The example that I am thinking of is a sad one since the wife in the family situation is obviously unhappy, the husband strung out and the kids taking the brunt of their marital issues. They have been regulars for a while but only recently we have seen the wife with a younger more beefy guy who is all over her when they come in together.
There is nothing worse than annoying regulars but for every good regular there are a dozen or so regulars that could be done without. But it does give us something to talk about.
Working in the service industry can leave you feeling empty, you are only there for the enjoyment of others, they could give two shits about you but when they do it is only to fill their own interests. Most of the time people will ask what you do, as if working at a restaurant does not qualify you for their respect unless you have some other sort of life that goes on outside of what you are doing. Whether it be going to school or having a day job, the fact of the matter is that many people will not find you to be a person with which they can respect unless they know that you are not just planning on being a waitress for the rest of your life.
One of my coworkers was talking about this a few weeks ago, its something that I have thought about for a while, but for her its so surprising the different response that she gets. She’s planning on going into the peace core after college but works at a rape crisis center while in school and working as a bartender. The fact that people will not even act like she is worth their time until they ask what she does, and then they will not only respect her but will treat her completely different. What makes it so that people feel that someone is not worthy of their respect is beyond me but while looking at this from a different view I saw many of the same aspects happens to overweight people.
For some reason people feel that being worthy as a person when your overweight can only happen if they find out that you are trying in some way to lose the excess weight. Being active and trying to be happy with who you are is not enough, unless you can and will fit into the mold of what society wants. It’s sad that we will shun others who do not fit into what as a society we have deemed to be worthy, not only based upon what we look like but down to the job that we hold and what we want from life.